Act Like You Know: How Death Brings Out The Fan In You

Prince. David Bowie. Alan Rickman. Gary Shandling.  Merle Haggard.

All dead.

All of these artists had fantastic careers entertaining people.  They pushed their fans to explore themselves, their lives, and their loved ones.  Many wonderful personal memories are attached to the work of these artists and their work have been woven into the narratives of people’s lives. When a particular song comes on the radio, it triggers a memory of  grandma’s homemade chocolate chip cookies or when a movie title flashes across their Netflix queue they remember the first time watching it and spending time with their best friends commenting on the flick MST3000 style. These entertainers and many others serve as a living records of personal moments in people’s lives.

When these artists are gone, people automatically bring up memories they had attached to them.  It could be their way to honor their death; to pay tribute to those people in a personal way.  Perhaps they want to relive a bit of what they felt back when they first encountered these performers.  There are a number of reasons why.

Da Bears

One thing I never truly understood till this day is why people try to make these memories grander/larger than they really were.  Let’s take for example Chicagoans’ fascination with the ’85 Bears team.  Many years ago I got into a heated conversation with a good friend of mine about this team.  I couldn’t fathom why an entire city continued to worship a team and a coach that won a Super Bowl over 25+ years ago.  I knew the general facts about the team and in fact recently watched an entire documentary about their journey to winning the Super Bowl.  At the time people talked about their feat as if it happened that day.  Why did I not hear anything about “those 1908 Cubs!”?  I mean, if it was about winning a championship, then shouldn’t the Cubs trek matter just deeply?  What about the 2005 White Sox World Series Champions or the 2006 Chicago Fire Champions?  Why did they not compete with the reverence of this fabled ’85 Bear team?  My friend responded was that it wasn’t about the championship itself; it was about all of the associated memories formed in that era that she was fond of.That line got me thinking.  Are the associated memories around the work of an artist more paramount than the actual accomplishments that helped form those memories?

Got Something To Prove There Buddy?

When an artist dies, social media goes crazy as expected.  Everyone with a voice wants to share their thoughts.  Everyone is entitled to their opinions and should be able to mourn the way they want to.  With that said, what I tend to see online are testimonials from people who say they are deeply, personally affected by the death of those artists and eventually post up a tribute of some sort to those people for others to gawk at.  Many of these posts don’t come off to me heartfelt but rather opportunistic.  It’s a way of saying,


Anecdotally all I tend to see are posting about these people only in their death and never while they’re alive.  I have a friend who breathed Bowie and Prince and incorporated their music, ethos, and work ethic into her own projects and aspirations.  She constantly was posting stuff about both of these artists through the years so I knew her fandom was truly personal and supportive of those artists.  There’s no question in my mind that whatever she posts up in their deaths are truly heartfelt.  Other people however I have never seen them post a cot damn thing about the artist during their life but yet are telling me they’re heart-broken over the news?  Come on…

Are You Down?  Really.  Are You Down???

I am not omniscient enough to know what people’s thoughts are at any given moment.  In the case of Prince maybe they celebrated his art quietly and personally – away from public eyes.  Maybe they have been lifelong Prince fans, have gone to multiple concerts, hung out with him backstage, or even recorded with him.  Who knows.  However, if you’re going to post a tribute to the man and act as if you were a number one fan from the first time you heard of him until now, then I have to ask some questions:

  • What’s the last Prince record you listened to in its entirety?
  • Can you name a Prince song recorded within the last 15 years and what record it came from?
  • Did you know there was life after Purple Rain?  If so, can you tell us what Prince had been up to since then?

Now, if a majority of the people posting stuff online were able to answer these simple questions, I would keep my mouth shut.  However, I know these folks can’t tell you anything about Prince beyond what memories they have associated with it.  Maybe they remember their 8th grade dance when “When Doves Cry” came on and everyone lost it or getting laid to “Little Red Corvette”.  For those posting up their tributes: does Prince dying negate the memories you had to the point you’re heartbroken?  I certain hope not.  Therefore, what are you so heart-broken about if you hadn’t listened to any thing from the man since 1984?  When he was alive 12 hours ago I didn’t see you posting a cot damn thing.  Now that he’s dead he’s important to mention?

You’re An Asshole, Nelson

I probably am. I also think it’s disingenuous to not celebrate people’s work when they’re alive but then act like you were always down once they die.  If people were honest with themselves and approached their posts with a bit of context, I may be less upset about it.  Posting up something simple like “RIP Prince.  You’ve brought a lot of joy to many people and myself included” would be satisfactory.  However, don’t act like a fan if you really haven’t been down through their career.

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